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When you remain with the pain, what happens?
It has the potential to transform. It's uncomfortable to sit with, but I've been sitting with it and it's transforming. And I'm realising that its a part of me, and to see it with compassion. There's still a way to go, but slowly but surely I know it can transform. They are bringing in a big shift for me these recent teachings. So much gratitude 🙏 💖
Funny to see that no one likes that one 😉 Me either. At first sight.
There are to me two things that can happen:
- I solidify the pain as "my" pain, grasp at the suffering and it then tends to increase... until it becomes unbearable and there's the pain plus the mind adding a layer of mental pain (questioning, not wanting, worrying,...)
- I look at the pain without identifying at it, as an observer. I see it move, I see its impermanence (it's not always the same), its emptiness, I can be with it and still have a peaceful mind. It doesn't necessarily take away the pain, but there's more space around, less afflictive emotions.
Honestly, how I'll manage to answer depends on the degree of the pain. It also depends on the nature of the pain. With strong physical pain, I find it somehow more difficult to handle. But I've had amazing experiences with remaining with difficult emotions that could be totally transformed. Once you sit with it, no choice, and you're really looking at it, not just nourishing it or legitimating it, but sitting and watching, it can just deflate and loose all of its power.
Much love to all 💛